Problem #1 Part II

The irreconsilable differences divorce can be traced as the ultimate cause of the problems we face today in these United States.

First, let me define the irreconsilable differences divorce.

Basically, you have two people who won't stop fighting, who happen to be married. They decide that compromise and mutual respect is less important than having their own way, so they get divorced. If there are children in the picture, the fight continues, resulting in a court-enforced family schedule. Sometimes one person decides that it would be easier to just give up the children rather than deal with the other person's BS any longer.

This gives children the impression that convenience is more important than, well, just about anything. This leads to justification of heinous behavior, like abortion, all in the name of convenience.

You see, the real problem in America is the lack of conflict resolution. We learned from our parents (not all, but quite a few) that there really doesn't have to be any sort of conflict resolution, because if things get too difficult, we can just run away from the problem.

Now, I know, this is starting to sound all touchy-feely, but it isn't so.

We are OK with letting problems get out of control, because we have learned that we can simply turn away from a problem when it becomes uncomfortable or inconvenient. Divorce has also taught us to be uncompromising, because compromise is inconvenient, and we can't have that.

Let's apply this theory to, say, illegal immigration.

OK, on the one hand, you have people who are absolutely OK with letting illegal immigrants have amnesty, citizenship, free health care, whatever. On the other hand, you have people who are absolutely against illegals, because they are a burden on our economy, they bring in drugs, they segregate themselves culturally, whatever.

This is where we are on the problem, and it has been this way for decades, because people do not know how to resolve a conflict in this country.

Now, a quick lesson in conflict resolution.

Group A (the amnesty people) wants to give these people citizenship, or at least the right to be here. Why?
Because of cultural sensitivity, sympathy for the impoverished, and the need for cheap labor.

Group B (the anti-illegal immigration no matter what group) wants to send them all home and secure the border. Why?
Because of the burden on the taxpayer, concerns about security, and a sense of nationalism.

We could sit here for decades and argue over which side has more merit (and we have).

So we obviously need to try a different appraoch to the problem.

We ask ourselves a few questions...
What is the root cause of the problem?

What can be changed at the source in order to keep the problem from getting worse?

Can a solution at the source (ie remove the problem) be accomplished?

How much of a compromise on either side would be required to remove the problem altogether, and would that much compromise be practical to suggest to people on either side of the issue?

Now its test time...simply answer the questions honestly, without blaming the "other side" of the issue, and lets see what you can come up with.